Basically she WILL pick her two best friends over her husband. That's established. You are supposed to accept that reality and forego career advancement so that she can remain with her two best friends. That's a huge concession to make on your part; does she realize that?
I don't think she does, since our relationship has been grounded on the assumption that I will eventually concede whatever she wants. That's just the way things have always been.
But DH's remark begs another question... While it would be nice for the beneficiary of a concession to be aware of the concession's magnitude, it is ultimately the conceder's responsibility to decide whether that concession violates personal integrity.
The world is replete with people who forsook their wedding vows when times turned for the poorer. My wife may well be one of the rarities who chose to do so for the richer. Screaming "You are a fool!" at her at the top of my lungs probably won't change her ways. I need to ask myself, "Am I the greater fool for having tolerated it for so long?"
Tomorrow, I'm calling the HR department for the Payment Subsidiary to see if they will reconsider me for the offer in the Silicon Valley. If she's staying, I might as well go where I really want to be.
