tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post8476223255178628450..comments2023-03-21T07:07:50.202-04:00Comments on 2amsomewhere: Discussing the Joint Session with My TherapistUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-82532681780224599112007-06-20T19:10:00.000-04:002007-06-20T19:10:00.000-04:00Catching up on your recent posts...I think that bo...Catching up on your recent posts...I think that both the joint session and the subsequent individual session were very productive. Sex and money - the two major issues in any intimate relationship. I am glad that you are continuing to pursue the Silicon Valley job option. I agree with your therapist that the job and marriage are two separate issues. <BR/><BR/>I am struck by the marked contrast between you and your wife. She is "emotional", while you are "intellectual". While it is true that we are all born with a tendency somewhere along the "intellectual-emotional" continuum, we need to be able to use both aspects. An analogy is the slow-twitch vs fast-twitch fiber in muscle. We are all born with a certain ratio of slow-twitch vs fast-twitch fibers in our skeletal muscles. As a result, some have a natural sprinting ability while others have a natural long-distance running ability. However, the best athletes will have a balanced approach in their training. Long-distance runners need to mix in some speed intervals into their workouts, and sprinters need longer runs to build up their endurance. <BR/><BR/>So, with this analogy, and thinking about the last paragraph of Emily's comment to one of recent posts, I suggest that you need to figure out ways to exercise your emotional muscles - to avoid the outcome she sees as a possibility. <BR/><BR/>Just a thought.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-12245606373074401472007-06-20T02:28:00.000-04:002007-06-20T02:28:00.000-04:00I, too, will be interested in any info you find be...I, too, will be interested in any info you find because I am what might be considered as an emotionally driven person - although I have learned to completely shut down when overwhelmed by emotion. I have to step back, clear my head and then re-evaluate after I get ahold of my emotions.<BR/><BR/>At any rate, I agree with your therapist in that you need to make it clear to your wife that you don't necessarily want to stay in the marriage, even if you don't move for a job. Very important point that she needs to understand.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-16445798981878091332007-06-19T20:21:00.000-04:002007-06-19T20:21:00.000-04:00I'll be interested in any info you have on your th...I'll be interested in any info you have on your therapist's theory about your wife, cause I'm not so sure I 'buy it'.<BR/><BR/>I've felt all along that your wife will be shocked if your decision is to take the job out west and /or end your marriage, because my sense is that she thinks her refusal to move will keep you here.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you're moving forward with the interviews while you and your wife struggle with the issue of your marriage.Have the T-shirthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12144662999404716735noreply@blogger.com