tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post3129100086968874477..comments2023-03-21T07:07:50.202-04:00Comments on 2amsomewhere: Blogging the Personal: The Fine Line Between Intimacy and ExhibitionismUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-18846995781893425202008-06-12T16:02:00.000-04:002008-06-12T16:02:00.000-04:00Hi there ... just getting caught up on my blog rea...Hi there ... just getting caught up on my blog reading, so I'm a bit late commenting on this ...<BR/><BR/>I've found that blogging is a bit like therapy for me, except that I don't have to stare at some old man's face with nose hair desperately in need of a trim. I'm able to air my thoughts, my fears, my feelings and feel better about doing so.<BR/><BR/>When I first started blogging, I fell in to the trap of trying to get a large readership. I've since grown to understand my greater purpose for blogging and am no longer even remotely concerned with readership.<BR/><BR/>I've, too, thought of taking down some of the more personal posts concerning my husband's affair and what-not, but ultimately decided against it.<BR/><BR/>The purpose of my blogging has changed over time, as have I. And although I don't post nearly as often as I used to or would like to, I do find comfort in knowing that my blog is there when I need her. Like a dear old friend.Signora Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11355875304781787017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-29781532641765924482008-06-08T16:04:00.000-04:002008-06-08T16:04:00.000-04:00wow. reading back through "mr. singer's" ridiculou...wow. reading back through "mr. singer's" ridiculously self-righteous comments make me cringe - and then make me terribly thankful. thankful that i had you at that moment to be the better man - thus shining a light of clarity on a very muddy time in my life. looking back, i now realize what a profound moment this was for me. it gave me further clarity and courage to make what was probably the hardest decision i've ever had to make. i still struggle with moments of sadness and feelings of worthlessness as i watch him happily move on, but coming back to read his comments and your response puts everything back into perspective for me. just so you know, you have been an important player in my life. someone i've never met. how odd and cool at the same time.mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11731917839844470875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-36867524562319357862008-06-02T22:30:00.000-04:002008-06-02T22:30:00.000-04:00I've read your blog for a very long time, as you k...I've read your blog for a very long time, as you know. I admit that at the beginning, I was more interested in the story of your marriage decline, since mine had been so very rocky too. Over time, though, I became more interested in you as a person, instead of just a player in a marriage drama. And that is why I've continued to read even though you don't have nearly as much to say about your relationship anymore. <BR/><BR/>Initially, it was how your blog started that got me reading. I'm glad you talked about what happened on the affair message board. That obviously didn't deter me from wanting to get to know you better. I hope that you feel satisfaction about not making the decision to have an extra-marital relationship. Heaven knows, its easy enough to get one. <BR/><BR/>What you said about flawedness being the natural state of humanity is very true. The one thing every one of us has in common with each other is our fallen nature. <BR/><BR/>We have wanted to keep our blogs private because we didn't want our families to find out about the affair. We plan on telling them all about it, though, in the not to distant future. With that said, though, I still wouldn't want them to find our blogs. I have said things in the moment that I would not want them to read, and I would hate for someone to use it as a weapon, like The Silent Male has just had to deal with.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I am glad that you told your story, even the tougher parts, and hope that you'll continue to post even if it is only sporadically.Therese in Heavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13607519856275927706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-53184176091711213072008-06-02T21:30:00.000-04:002008-06-02T21:30:00.000-04:00Ms. Gould is way, way out there, having been on CN...Ms. Gould is way, way out there, having been on CNN's LKL. Plus there's another YouTube video of her doing a certain sex act with some phallic object. I think she's adorable.<BR/><BR/>I see my blogging as a sort of extension on therapy. Yeah, sometimes it's other-validation and I do thrive off that. I do share far more on R&R than my wife would ever be comfortable with if she knew which is why I don't tell her about it. Like Ms. Gould, I used to write in a notebook in H.S. and loved to share my writing. It's very heady having a story that other people think is worth spending time to read and even comment. <BR/><BR/>At the same time, I also write stuff that never sees the light of day, believe it or not. I have hand written notebooks with similar stuff as you see in my blog going way back nearly 20 years. I've always written and nearly always tried to find a way to share. Blogging meets my craving hand-in-glove. While not quite the comment whore FTN is, I am at least as much of an attention whore.<BR/><BR/>I do have a RL presence that is "out there" and that has been a bit scarier than the anonymous blogging because I never know when a person might catch only a glimpse of my content without going into my whole story. I prefer having a smallish presence, whereas Ms. Gould reached out and got the whole grandstand and paid a high price for it. And she still hasn't learned enough being the cover story for the NYT magazine! At least those of us in the backwaters seem to prostitute ourselves out to a higher class and more educated clientele.<BR/>D.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-45621916413171940842008-06-02T10:56:00.000-04:002008-06-02T10:56:00.000-04:00I've been out of town, so I'm just getting around ...I've been out of town, so I'm just getting around to reading some stuff. This is really interesting. I think you summed it up thus:<BR/><BR/><I>And by reading others' personal blogs, I realize that flawedness is the natural state of humanity.</I><BR/><BR/>I wince at some things I've written years past, but it was how I was feeling at the time, and I'd hate to remove it (unless, of course, someone found it that I wouldn't want to see it). Plus, as was pointed out, writing things one post at a time seems to give an entirely different picture than if someone were to read the posts straight through.FTNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00863217400079842687noreply@blogger.com