tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post116457910123307529..comments2023-03-21T07:07:50.202-04:00Comments on 2amsomewhere: 2am Talks About Work IssuesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1164739038280306282006-11-28T13:37:00.000-05:002006-11-28T13:37:00.000-05:00Just to add to what the old husband said: he's do...Just to add to what the old husband said: he's done very well with Java over the years w/out any J2EE or Oracle. He picks up whatever else he needs as he goes along (he's currently learning something called Laszlo), and he's managed to avoid J2EE to date.the Drunken Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1164717837346317642006-11-28T07:43:00.000-05:002006-11-28T07:43:00.000-05:00Hi again,Don't have much advice, but I am struck b...Hi again,<BR/><BR/>Don't have much advice, but I am struck by the way you have become assertive in your relationship with your wife. This has had a powerful effect on you. My suggestion is to take this same approach to your career - to both your present job and to your future career choices. <BR/><BR/>In my own situation, developing my assertiveness has had a positive impact on both my family relationships and my work relationships. <BR/><BR/>I also second the idea of the Sober Husband, to advertise yourself as someone who is versatile and a quick learner. In the words of biology - be a generalist, not a specialist. In my own profession (academic biomedical science), the trick to training graduate students is to get them to the point where they know how to define problems and chose the right experimental approach, and then go and learn the techniques required to accomplish the necessary experiments. Too often graduate students are narrowly trained in a particular technique and flounder when they have to go out on their own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1164611935033159342006-11-27T02:18:00.000-05:002006-11-27T02:18:00.000-05:00I am not the Drunken Housewife. I am the Sober Hu...I am not the Drunken Housewife. I am the Sober Husband, a career programmer in silicon valley.<BR/><BR/>I suggest you consider a totally different approach to these questions about technical skills, J2EE, relational databases and so forth. It doesn't sound flattering to say that you know a particular programming language--it makes you sound like a drone. Consider simply assuming that you are an intelligent person who can learn any particular programming language, software package, network protocol, file format, or whatever, and broaden your horizons.<BR/><BR/>J2EE is a great example of why this is wise. Some of the dullest people I know are specialists in it, and every programmer whom I respect, especially the Java programmers, is puzzled by it. It's a huge bureaucracy in code form. Mastery of it proves nothing about your intelligence, only something about the place where you work.<BR/><BR/>I suggest you stop thinking about learning languages, and instead assume that you will gain all your technical skills in the course of your work. Tell that to prospective employers too; they will respect you for saying it.the Drunken Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.com