tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post3952037732793791327..comments2023-03-21T07:07:50.202-04:00Comments on 2amsomewhere: And Soon, the Legal Bond DissolvesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-54038515312224573632010-06-22T16:02:04.573-04:002010-06-22T16:02:04.573-04:00Trying out something from within the EAP might not...Trying out something from within the EAP might not be a bad idea. Give it a try.<br /><br />I think I had some similar problems when applying for house loans... We just bought a house and I knew it could be a problem to our lender that I recently switched from a contract employee to a salaried employee. I had to provide a letter from my employer explaining that I was working the same job, and that did the trick.FTNnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-35444719268921283342010-06-15T16:46:34.952-04:002010-06-15T16:46:34.952-04:00Oh my gosh, you are FINALLY (almost) a divorced pe...Oh my gosh, you are FINALLY (almost) a divorced person! Wow, what a loooong road you've come down. I have so enjoyed this blog, you are nothing if not thorough and articulate--hope you share more of your experience as a newly-single guy, too. <br /><br />I've opined here in the past about how I believe you allow yourself to be totally dominated and dictated to by your STBX, no matter what the circumstances. Soon, if you really try to grow as a person, you can "cut the cord" with taking care of her altogether. So, I'm encouraged that you'll try to seek help in one way or another, it's the best thing you can do for yourself after all that you've been thru. <br /><br />As I'm sure you're aware, many many interesting people (talented, unique, geniuses, etc.) are thought to have had asperger's syndrome, I am reading now about the brilliant pianist Glenn Gould who was undoubtedly an aspie, amongst other really profound emotional/psychological problems. <br /><br />Anyway, glad you've posted again, please don't take so long to let us know what's going on with you.Ginnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-63187806708640644642010-06-13T11:54:07.724-04:002010-06-13T11:54:07.724-04:00You could approach the situation philosophically a...You could approach the situation philosophically and recognize that you are exactly where you need to be at this moment in order to achieve personal and/or spiritual growth, but also recognize that you have the power to make choices that will effectuate change even within the parameters of your constraints--small, realistic choices that could bring you some happiness and could even be the catalyst to free you from the bonds of your constraints. This, to me, is the easiest thing to say and the hardest thing to do. Hang in there. I'm thinking of you.--Vnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-62696213362282734112010-06-12T14:57:03.532-04:002010-06-12T14:57:03.532-04:00Over here we often half-joke about the Sober Husba...Over here we often half-joke about the Sober Husband registering on the Asperger's Scale. We're sure he is up at the top of that measure. When he has a good meeting, he'll say, "It was great! Just a bunch of us autistic guys." Your mutual profession draws in Asperger's people, who have a certain kind of blazing intellect but such difficulty understanding emotional nuances. <br /><br />I wish you lived closer; I'd hang out with you for drinks (and the Sober Husband could offer you quality autistic companionship), help you fix up your place, etc... I'm glad you're there for your kids. I think your wife sounds very immature in a lot of ways, and I suspect home ownership is going to be rough on her.Drunkenhousewifehttp://www.drunkenhousewife.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-69387286673750298322010-06-12T13:37:14.641-04:002010-06-12T13:37:14.641-04:00Wow, as far as you've come in the time I'v...Wow, as far as you've come in the time I've known you, you are STILL in limbo. You've been much more accomodating than I would have been to your spouse, regarding her need for you to arrange your finances so that SHE can buy a house. --AnaisAnaishttp://anais-pf.livejournal.com/noreply@blogger.com