tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post116645746747081408..comments2023-03-21T07:07:50.202-04:00Comments on 2amsomewhere: Lyrical Insight on IntegrityUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1166619741027194242006-12-20T08:02:00.000-05:002006-12-20T08:02:00.000-05:00Anais observes astutely:Aren't affirmations suppos...Anais <A HREF="http://2amsomewhere.blogspot.com/2006/12/lyrical-insight-on-integrity.html#116658822138516387" REL="nofollow">observes</A> astutely:<BR/><BR/><I>Aren't affirmations supposed to be stated positively? That first one seems a tad on the negative side.</I><BR/><BR/>Touche! Get me a rewrite...<BR/><BR/>Self-soothing helps me be true to myself.2amsomewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12343733349708172680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1166588221385163872006-12-19T23:17:00.000-05:002006-12-19T23:17:00.000-05:00Aren't affirmations supposed to be stated positive...Aren't affirmations supposed to be stated positively? That first one seems a tad on the negative side. When you repeat an affirmation to yourself, it should feel good and liberating and empowering.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1166536274384861382006-12-19T08:51:00.000-05:002006-12-19T08:51:00.000-05:00Thanks, tom, for the followup. I'm going to put a...Thanks, <A HREF="http://www.blogger.com/profile/30629649" REL="nofollow">tom</A>, for the <A HREF="http://2amsomewhere.blogspot.com/2006/12/lyrical-insight-on-integrity.html#116648267015052111" REL="nofollow">followup</A>. I'm going to put a comment on the <A HREF="http://2amsomewhere.blogspot.com/2006/12/digesting-schnarch.html" REL="nofollow">original post</A> that cross references your response.2amsomewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12343733349708172680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1166482670150521112006-12-18T17:57:00.000-05:002006-12-18T17:57:00.000-05:002am, sorry I didn't get back to your questions ear...2am, sorry I didn't get back to your questions earlier.<BR/><BR/>The Schnarch approach seems to me to be based heavily on the Albert Ellis Rational Emotive approach; the idea that <B>you</B> are responsible for your emotions, and not your partner is an easy concept to talk about but much more difficult to put into practice. But you've been hanging tough, and I admire that.<BR/><BR/>My issues with your post about your attitudes toward sexuality and your wife can be condensed into this: Despite the fact that you are responsible for your own emotions, <I>in a relationship</I> it is perfectly reasonable to have expectations; that is, after all, part of the <I>relating</I>. It seems (and I could be misreading it) that by making yourself responsible for too much and removing some of the pressure from her.<BR/><BR/>And I say "pressure" because that, too, is part of a relationship. For example, one expects that after you get married that you will be monogamous. But the flip side - the pressure - is that you'll h ave to come to some kind of agreement as to frequency and quality, or else the expectation of monogamy is meaningless.<BR/><BR/>Tom Allen<BR/><A HREF="http://vanillaedge.wordpress.com" REL="nofollow" TITLE="Looking over the edge into the abyss...">The Edge of Vanilla</A>Tom Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04208222697436091267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1166465999891595312006-12-18T13:19:00.000-05:002006-12-18T13:19:00.000-05:00Very insightful blog... Your need and search for h...Very insightful blog... <BR/><BR/>Your need and search for happiness are making you question your own integrity. It's the classic struggle of wrong and right -- white vs. red angel -- yes I should, no I shouldn't.<BR/><BR/>The truth is, you have to not fear digging deep within yourself and answering some very deep questions that you may be afraid to know the answers to.<BR/><BR/>I think we all go through this in life though, so know that you are not alone.<BR/><BR/>- PF readerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com