tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post115984733056811245..comments2023-03-21T07:07:50.202-04:00Comments on 2amsomewhere: Feeling Adrift (or: Wake Me up when September Ends)Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1161578051285315632006-10-23T00:34:00.000-04:002006-10-23T00:34:00.000-04:00I would suggest taking a short term out of state c...I would suggest taking a short term out of state contract position -- you can make a lot of money quickly, pay off the Discover card, and then pay a lawyer to get away from this woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1160363107683595552006-10-08T23:05:00.000-04:002006-10-08T23:05:00.000-04:00I wonder if she has a secret savings account set u...I wonder if she has a secret savings account set up somewhere and she's been siphoning funds in case of divorce. <BR/><BR/>On the other hand, she may well have run through that money (we certainly run through plenty of cash here). But if you are describing things accurately (and I have no reason to think that you are not), that's a lot of missing cash.<BR/><BR/>I don't know where you live, but the economy is definitely up for coders. C++ is in less demand than Java and its progeny, though.the Drunken Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1160005093329783612006-10-04T19:38:00.000-04:002006-10-04T19:38:00.000-04:00So.... There is missing money you cannot find. Y...So.... There is missing money you cannot find. You often say your wife is out scrapbooking with her friend. I'm serious, you need to consider the option that things are not as chaste as they seem. You know I know about these things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31278044.post-1159888082406446952006-10-03T11:08:00.000-04:002006-10-03T11:08:00.000-04:00I thought it was a good blog post. I have soooooo...I thought it was a good blog post. I have sooooooo been there, done that. You really have an obligation to lay out the financial situation and detail to your wife exactly what makes you unhappy. Why should she feel entitled to get everything she wants (and eat up your savings and cut down on work hours) while you carry the financial burden for the family. The best thing that could possibly happen would be her working MORE to keep her busy and give her less time to spend your money on frivolous things (and I guarantee that she's doing that).<BR/><BR/>That probably sounds weird, coming from me, but I'm a chick. I know how we are. I also was in a similar situation with a partner who racked up thousands in hidden debt and spent a lot of my earnings on stupid shit he wanted.<BR/><BR/>I know it's really hard to care at this point, but you do need to be brutally honest with her. I waited till it was really far too late and I'd already given up on the relationship to spill my guts to my husband, just like the woman you describe. I lived in silent desperation, planning for d-day, until his 3rd affair jolted me into action.<BR/><BR/>I don't know what the solution is, but I would encourage brutal honesty. She needs to know exactly how gone you are, while there is still time to fix things.Troublehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16553273498093394669noreply@blogger.com